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Totally agree!
Although the concept of an adult virgin these days is a bit idealistic, I applaud her commitment and hope she ends up with someone equally as worthy and as committed to abstinance as she has been. Go Lolo!!!

Totally ridiculous: Sex is sex and love is love.

One is an activity, the other is an emotional commitment/connection.

...and besides, what kind of gift is having painful sex on your first night together...yeah that sounds terrific. This isn't the 1600's England...c'mon people. I'd prefer to have a women with a little experience who is comfortable with herself intimately...not a newbie. ...It's like a 30yr old that can't ride a bike. Seriously.

As a guy, I've had a girl virgin: Not a gift...trust me.

You are a snarky loser who has no concept of values!

Which values is he lacking? And whose values?

Moral values! Lolo's values!

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Get real! If you are saying that everyone who has had sex before they've gotten married is lacking moral values, you are saying that a vast majority of people today are lacking values. That shows a complete lack of being in touch with reality on your part. You can keep your values and continue living in the past.

You obviously don't know what moral values are, do you? The fact that the majority of people today have pre-marital sex doesn't make it right -
they lack morals, just like you! We are living indeed in an immoral world, and it gets worse every day !!

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Your description sounds more like self indulgent behavior which is not what Lolo is committed to. Self control comes with respect for one's self!

If, by your assertion- that "adults just owe each other honesty and respect" - having sex just for the heck of having it is no respect for the other person - this is lust and needs for instant gratification, with no morals.
And if you need "learning" - the process for you is to look for some prostitutes - there's plenty in Colombia!

Seriously?! I bet all your girlfriends mothers are proud of you. I bet most of your conquests are something to be proud of.

Saying someone considers sexual experiences to be conquests is a big assumption. I didn't get that impression from his post, at all.

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I had to register an account just to say YOU GO GIRL!!!! I appreciate a women who realizes the value of her virginity as I am also a virgin... I will not lie about wanting to have sex all the time but it would mean more to me to have someone love me than someone who just wants to have sex with me. Also... mobiusmaker you got owned in this argument. Good story Lolo!

And I had to register for an account just to give YOU a shout out. Finally, someone who has some intelligence. I'm also a virgin in my early 20's, and I understand the constant urge. I don't think that people who are no longer virgins, understand just how difficult it is to stay that way. Sex is everywhere. It definitely means more to be with someone who loves you and vice versa.

Let's see how you feel in your 30's after a failed relationship with "the one"...

Kudos to both Chris and modelbw!!! I'm a 33 yr old virgin, and it is not easy, but I'm (trying hard to continue) saving it for my hubby. =)

My wife and I both waited till our wedding night to have sex. I was 25 and she was 23, and I can say that as a Man, I enjoy telling my wife (of 25 years) shes the best I have ever had. (we dont know any other partners....so we dont know if we are good or bad at it) I applaud her for her decision... her husband will thank her for it.

I don't think you can speak for all women. I wasn't a virgin when I met my husband and, surprise, neither was he. We brought experience and understanding to our relationship and 26 years later, I think I can say it worked out. It's a choice, of course, but it's just plain snarky to diss someone else's choice because it's not yours. Choice means choice.

well, my wife and I were virgins when we got married, I was 31 and she was 23, and we have great sex and 3 beautiful kids now. So it's not the experience that really counts at all.

How do you know your having great sex, as a virgin you have nothing to compare it to do you? You may be having so so sex and you would never know, just saying if you only ate oatmeal you would never know what steak tastes like.

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So according to your logic, if you drove a Ferrari as your first car, you wouldn't know it was a great car?

Sorry if you lack the ability to differentiate treasure from trash without sampling the trash first. What a pathetic existence.

One mans trash is another mans treasure. And trash even become treasure when it's either rare or one of a kind. Considering there's a 98% chance the Ferrari will depreciate,the maintenance cost would be out of this world, the expense of the insurance, it couldn't be driven on a daily basis and eventually I would end up looking like a silly old man driving a Ferrari that others were lusting after; give me a car that's easy to maintain and one that's going to appreciate over time.

"Good Sex" is relative, just like 'beauty' is relative (beauty is in the eye of the beholder)

So, how can you, Imathinkin, tell davoyz that his "good" sex is just "so-so" sex? His wife has been his only, so it's the best sex he's/she's had!

And comparing oatmeal to steak seems reasonable, until you realize that some are satisfied by oatmeal, until they are ready for steak. It's not either or, its more of a timing issue. (Imma have my "steak" soon, but Im ok with oatmeal, for now.)

To some, sex may be a contest, competition, or a race, but it's definitely not to all people, across the board.

Kudos to you and your wife, davoyz! =)

Abstinence is the key. Because then you either get pregnant from a guy you don't know about cause you were so waated that night. Another reason why abstinence is healthy is because sex exposes the body to certain STD's.

That is what mom and dad want their prepubescent little girl to think so she stays home at night!

Mobiusmaker: You and an alley cat have a lot in common.

Ethical: "Snarky"...good call!

....while everyone makes assumptions about me, let me add: This girl that I had sex with that was a virgin is now my wife, and is the ONLY person I've ever had sex with....yes, I was also a virgin....so, alley cat and I have a love of *****, but that's where the comparison stops.

People: Really, ask yourself this question: What is the value to another person of one person being a virgin for another person? This is mysogynistic cultural and relegious baggage that needs to be tossed out. Ripping someone's hymen is not some type of prize or gift as far as I'm concerned. It's awkward, painful, not something fun at all. ...its just a part of growing up.

I personally regret my decision to not have more intimate sexual relationships prior to my marriage. This is clearly a mistake and I suggest that others do not make it! To each your own, but choose wisely....sexual maturity is more important than virginity by far in having healthy lasting relationships.

Your contradictory remarks really amuse me to no end.
I applaud you for having sex only with your wife -if I read your words correctly (?)
But, on the other hand, you're regretting not having sex with other partners prior to your marriage - sounds pretty immature to me. Grow up, man!

I agree with you, although the activity and emotion go very well together, in my opinion. As a woman, I just can't fathom why she thinks this would be a great gift for a man she hasn't yet met, who will most likely not be a virgin like herself. A better gift would be to give herself the chance to experience all life has to offer. Her having sex within a healthy, committed relationship (or whatever else she may choose) takes nothing away from her or any future husband. Sexuality is natural and normal, which is why her denying herself a basic human urge is the hardest thing she's ever done.

I'm a man who had premarital sex with his wife before marriage,biggest mistake I ever made. After twenty one years of marriage, two children later, living with her cheating on me multiple times throughout the marriage, she finaly divorced me and left me for another man. Looking back, at that time, I thought it was love, it wasn't, it was lust. And, had we not had premarital sex, I now know I never would have married her in the first place, I wouldn't have lost my home in the divorce, I wouldn't have had all that debtand paid all the interest to the credit card company, I wouldn't have lost my retirement and would have quit working long ago and lastly I would probably still be married to a beautiful woman whom I respected and loved dearly. So tell me, has your heart been broken already? If so, how many times? Sex doesn't make you beautiful, but most guys will make you feel like it does just so they can have sex with you. Your inner beauty makes you beautiful and a good man knows that. Premarital sex won't do anything but take away from a husband or wife in a marriage relationship. Man or woman, if any person has enough self control to abstain from sex until their married, they can be probably be trusted with being faithful during a marriage. I've learned a lot the hard way over the years. Oh what I would give to have my youth back so I could abstain and find a woman with self control like that. Good luck!

1mamazed speaks with wisdom.

You are totally crazy.......you would rather have some ***** off the street who has slept with god knows who just to have experience than have a nice girl who loves someone. You are going to be a lonely person........

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Point made!

Update: May 23, 2012
I was refering to my earlier point!

Sounds like love is not what you're looking for - but LUST ! But at least you're honest about it - although quite pathetic, I must say.
What you are looking for is pure sexual satisfaction with whomever is good at it. Try prostitutes if you haven't already - I hear that they are the best out there - with all the experience you crave for !

you are a ignorant person don't only have sex with penetration there's a infinite of ways to make sex and vaginal intercourse is only one of them so what I'm trying to say is that you can have a healthy sex live an even enjoy more than having penetration ****

So you don't have to have sex with penetration huh? How else do you then?

That's exactly what Bill Clinton said. I guess oral sex doesn't count !

1. Olympian Lolo Jones doesn't care what alleged internet gigolo mobiusmaker thinks.

2. Unlike you, most dudes don't want "a women" (you might have more success with the ladies if you become literate) who has run a sausage gauntlet. But if you prefer sloppy twelfths, go for it.

3. I doubt any woman thinks you are a gift, which is probably why you are alone, single, sitting on your computer, stuffing your face with Cheetos...while Lolo Jones is preparing for the Olympics.

Lol(o)

...That is funny. Make some more assumptions: I'm married with 2 kids. ...was a virgin (same as my wife mentioned in my comment above) on that awkward first night together while dating. I prefer sloppy seconds that have been reheated a few times.

critiquing my grammer in a post: seriously? It's a flipping post, not a doctoral dissertation

And for the record: I don't stuff my face with Cheetos. I prefer baked lays.

It is good that Lolo can jump....I doubt she has a career as a public speaker. (sorry Lolo, just being honest while we're on that theme)

I'm sure your wife is a real prize--I bet she loves the fact that you can't spell grammar and wish she had had a few more sausages in her before you met. And I'm sure your kids will grow up to be quality members of society--stuffing themselves full of sausage...or waiting in line after the train has finished with their wife-to-be. What a life!

And still, Lolo doesn't care what you think.

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You know what, Mr. Sandman ?
Before you criticize and try to correct others for their grammar and spelling, you better make sure yours is perfect - because it's not.
EX: "seem transparent (sic)" - everything SEEMS.
"everybody's entitled to their own.."(sic)-
everybody's entitlted to HIS/HER own...
So, now, who's the one who needs lessons in grammar - looks like you definitely do !!
And don't let me catch you using wrong foreign words either. Be careful, for I'll be watching you !

Nice...

I agree with your view on waiting to have sex, although not for any religious reasons or anything like that, but seriously your insults are making me want to switch sides because I don't want to be on yours. Why couldn't you just have said that there is nothing wrong with having some respect for your body, and for a future spouse and just left it at that? The name calling doesn't put you on a higher pedistal you know, in fact it gives the other the upper hand...

"you are a ignorant. people don't only have sex with penetration there's a infinite of ways to make sex and vaginal intercourse is only one of them so what I'm trying to say is that you can have a healthy sex live an even enjoy more than having penetration **** "

I completely agree with Mobius, and I am a woman. Virginity is not a gift. It is a chain binding you to some archaic, parochial system. Personally, I'd rather be knowledgeable about what I want on my wedding night, with some previous experiences to make me appreciate my partner more. I don't miss my virginity, at all. I'm glad she's proud, but she could have kept it to herself, because talking about her virginity makes it seem like she's desperate to get laid...Maybe she is? :p

For the most part, I agree with you. I prefer at least some experience over none. There is something to be said for being a woman's first, and hopefully only, but, as commented, she would then have nothing to compare it to so how would she know if she were to be totally fullfilled?

This coming from a woman - I am shocked - but perhaps not anymore, in these days an age.
It seems that everyone wants to satisfy himself/herself more than they do their husbands/wives.
Your comments betray your selfishnes. I don't believe, for a moment, that your premarital escapdes were intended to satisfy your husband to be! You were just horny, that's all !

Society and morals are in the crapper because of idiots like you.

I beg to differ. Mysogynistic bible thumpers who think ripping a woman's hymen is some sort of gift or prize....that's morality for ya.

Obviously, morality is not for you! Keep bragging, your reward is forthcoming!

TOUCHE !
You took the words right out of my mouth. One of the few intelligent comments thus far.
Society today is not just very low on the morality barometer - it still is plunging !

I contend that mobiusmaker has a grave misunderstanding of what the gift is. (As many do.) The gift is NOT fantastic sexual performance, or even comfort, on the wedding night. The gift is not directly sexual or physical. The gift is the reassurance you give your spouse...that they are NOT being compared to a previous lover, that they DON'T have to worry about how they stack up in comparison, that they are unique and special because you have shared experiences with them that have been shared with no other. The gift is also giving their spouse a mate who has proven that they can resist sexual temptations, including those that will come from others outside the marriage. Anyone with an ounce of introspection or observance of human nature can understand these concepts. The notion that "the gift" is about the physical act of being with a virgin is a reflection of our society that focuses on the pleasure of the here and now instead of the emotional building blocks for a strong relationship. I cannot claim to have the discipline and strength of Lolo, but I applaud her committment and for speaking boldly about it in a critical, over-sexed society.

I agree completely! Well said! Although I am not religious in the least, and actualy do not believe in any life after death, I do think that ones virginity is something special. Today we have taken sex out of our bedrooms which was once held as something private, and put it out everywhere. You can't go get gas without being bombarded with images of sex, or hearing about it on the radio, or t.v.. It's everywhere you turn. And it's too bad, sex used to mean something along time ago. It was more than just a feeling of pleasure. I'm 31 now and single and if I could go back and do it differently I would. I used to look at sex as just numbers. My main goal, a goal that I wanted more than anything, was to have 100 partners by the time I reached 25(I didn't make it.). Sex literly meant nothing to me, it wasn't special, it didn't have a meaning, it was just a short period of pleasure. I can tell you this, if I could do it differently, I would wait for someone who was doing the same(as long as I could still have my daughters that is). Someone who was looking for someone special and not someone who was just looking for one or 2 nights of pleasure. One thing that's for certain is that this world would be a much better place if sex actually meant something again. We wouldn't have the un-believable divorce rates that we have now. We wouldn't have the kids that grow up never knowing their father, and in turn, turn out just like their mothers because that's ok with them. I think we as a country need to hit the reset button and start over from scratch.

LOL. The gift, better stated, is the fact that after having lived a full life, after experiencing other people, places, positions (Ha!), a person has made an educated choice to be with someone. They have weighed their options, both emotional and physical, and have elected to be with a specific person. Jesus, this whole concept of getting married to your high school sweetheart or to the first person you gave your virginity to is such a joke. Ever wonder why the divorce rate is so high? It's because people make a choice based on pure emotion and don't reason it through. Then, one day, you find yourself sitting at your home wondering if the grass is greener on the other side. Or, worse, you lose touch and fall out of love because you have no freaking clue how to actually be in a relationship. Want to lower the divorce rate in this country? Want to stop cheating in relationships? Then don't get married right away, have a lot of great sex, live alone for awhile and most importantly, find out who the hell you are on your own. This "gift" crap that you are all espousing is just horse ****. And for those of you who think that there is some religious reason for virginity, I say thus - HAHAHAHAHAHa. You people are still fooled by a religion that was founded to keep people poor and uneducated. It thought of marriage as a means by transferring "chattel" or property which, historically, was only transferable to relations or family, thus marriage. The virginity issue is one that is so friggin old that it was established in a time where societies were run by men, for men. Of course, with how fragile the male ego is, a society that is run by men would want their women "chaste." This concept died a long, long time ago and maybe all those virgin lovers should grow up and move into the 21st century. To the religious zealots, just let go of this crazy insistence on the god and the bible and all the things that were said just to keep people scared, dumb and poor.

Let the crazed maniacs start responding . . . now!

YOU are such a LOOOOSSSSSEEEERRRRR!
I am sure women just LOVE you....NOT!

its guys like you who have sex and view girls as objects than when they have a human come into life they leave em with nothing.. who ever you are i wish you would die!!!!!! one day every man shall bow and every tougue confess that Jesus Christ is Lord and will pay for all of our sins!!!! by the way that is one of the ten commandments to thou shalt not commmit adultery!!! sounds like you are a non believer who is goin to hell!!!! i'll be praying for you!!!

Wow!!! Where does it say in you bible that you can wish people to die? You talk about finding a non-believer, huh well after reading your absolute off the wall, bat sh#T crazy post, I now know that whatever it is that you believe in, I will choose to believe the exact opposite. Seriously, look at the post you just wrote and tell me that that is not the words of somebody who is off their rocker? Honestly, you sound like you have a lot of skeletons hiding in your closet... hope that all works out for you. Good Luck

It's good to see we still have true Christian's here... Well put, I especialy like the part where you said that you wish the person "would die". Spoken like a true Christian my friend, a true role model in every sense of the word. Keep on truckin' my friend, keep on...

Peace 17... as a Christian, i'm only saying this on the internet as it was said on the internt.

It's out of Christ love and kindness that I'm saying, wishing people to die on one hand, and then, slamming them on the head with, "one day every man shall bow and every tongue shall confess Jesus Christ is Lord.....ect.", just it's a very loving way to correct, teach or to even share the gospel of Jesus Christ. In doing this, you will only damage the perception of what true Christianity is and what others believe it to be. Simply put, we're called to hate the sin,not the sinner. This will only put a bad taste in the mouth of non believers. Outside of rightous anger, we are not to be angry,we are to discern good from evil, right from wrong, and we are called to act accordingly to Gods Word....

Young and old Christian sinners are just as guilty as the un saved sinners; the only difference between us is grace and forgiveness.

There is only one true and just judge and He knows the heart of each and every one of us. We we will all be held accountable for our actions, that includes you and I. God Bless

"what kind of gift is having painful sex on your first night together...yeah that sounds terrific. "

One has to be fairly obtuse and short-sighted if they view virginity in this simple matter.

Virgins are not simply presenting inexperience to the table when they are preparing for their first sexual experience. They are there as chaste individuals that patiently waited for the right person to give themselves to.

I could understand how more and more people in a society that is increasingly becoming nihilistic could view this as sacrilege. After all, patience and virtue has little value now with the obsession over carnal desires.

It says a lot about your character when you will dismiss someone based on their sexual inexperience. You are assuming that since he or she is inexperienced upon your first sexual encounter, they will remain inexperienced. That, or you have no patience to teach them; you want INSTANT gratification now.

An impatient and nihilistic partner, AWESOME.

Patience and MUTUAL learning builds the most powerful of relationships.

Definitely looks like neither you NOR the virgin knew the value or worth of her virginity. Kinda sad, really.

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You are an IDIOT!!!

Women associate sex with love...

Guys associate sex with an activity!

You have probably never had any kind of meaningful relationship either... What an IDIOT!

Indeed one has to commend her beliefs and dedication. She is a very attractive woman and deserves a man who isn't thinking of one thing like most of the dogs do.

Absolutely!!!!!To find that wonderful person would be awesome!!!!

My son is 23. Just graduated ASU and is also a Virgin. He wants to wait for his true love. I give him a ton of credit because girls are coming on to him all the time. Even when he's with us at dinner out or a ballgame or whatever. Great story Lolo..

Sure mom, whatever you say.

Graduated from ASU and a virgin? Lady, he is either lying or one ugly kid.

Not everyone is like you.

Fortunately.

Its like you graduated from ASU and you did it, ^_^, Doesn't mean every other person did it. I applaud him!!!

You are a bitter person for saying such a thing.....my nephew is a virgin and he is quite nice, good looking and wants to wait after watching his friends get girls pregnant at a young age. There is something to be said about waiting for sex. People who ***** around just to say they have sex are not worthy of anyone's company accept maybe the Dr.'s office for disease or mental illness. You are ignorant and stupid for saying that people who wait are ugly or lying. Good grief, some people actually respect themselves for once.

And you must be as deep as a puddle.

KUDOS to Lolo, to your son... and to YOU for raising a great young man! Sounds like a cutie & sweetie, with all that girl attention. Statistics show that virginity is on the rise among young people, so it's not unheard of to be a virgin (except to non-virgins). More realize how precious that gift of yourself can be (without STDs or emotional baggage/jealousies stemming from prior relationships). My husband & I saved ourselves for each other when we got married as well -- no regrets! :)

right on . i grew up in small crazy town. never knew whats up or who's doing what . to much stress and secrets and lies . my last gf was great. good girl. why i get hit on a lot i don't chase . more into myself now . bad relations do a lot of damage to people . better off find good toy or no sex. more bad then good happens . take care of numero uno ;).

While I'm completely against abstinence for religious purposes I do see the upside to what she is doing. IMO religion is the worst thing humans have ever created since the dawn of man. More people have been killed under it's name than any other man made invention, ever. It still to this day is the main cause of most to all wars and it's the number one thing that is truely holding us back from finding the real answers out there, and taking real strides to our own imortality, which believe it or not, I think we could possibly have the tech. within the next 10 to 20 years if we put everything we have into it. But, unfortunatly because of religion that wont be possible because it will be looked at as some sort of sin against god. The unfortunate thing is, people will never realize that until it's too late, maybe even never or at least until their heart stops but their brain is still sending msgs for the next minute or two maybe then they'll realize that whoops I bet on the wrong horse. Maybe if I would have got behind the anti-religious movement and got more people to join maybe, just maybe we might have been able to advance as a society to a point where we didn't have to die, because one thing that I am sure of over anything else is that there is no god. And I know, theres a million people out there that are going to completely disagree with me but you know what? The truth hurts. When you die, your dead, there is nothing waiting for you, nothing.I know anyone reading this who is devoutly religious will think Satan has gotten a hold of me or whatever and that's okay, they are entitled to their beliefs just as I am, one of us will be proven right some day. And I would bet every last cent on me being the right one. One day we will know the truth and i am just glad that I can be here at a time when it's still very contraversal to have my views. And as scary as it is for most people to realize that, it's the only way we can truely grow as a society. Ok, back to virgin, I do think what's she's doing is great. I have a feeling that there is one women who's marriage wont end in divorce. Most women today and men too for that matter have had so many sexual partners before getting married that if something comes up in their marriage they would just rather leave it rather than work on it. Which in turn causes major problems with the upbringing of their children. I'll tell you what, if I could go back I would try the whole virginity thing rather than the way that I went. Everyone of my ex-girlfriends could easily be described as sluts, having multiple partners and using sex as a means to get something they want. And the truth is, deap down I really didn't respect them, and it's hard too, knowing that if a fight breaks out between us that they could be out looking for their next number that same night, rather than if we were virgins, that wouldn't be the case. Sex would have ment alot more to us. And that goes my way as well for the womans standpoint. If sex actualy meant something like it used to, maybe just maybe our divorce rate wouldn't be at 50% and our STD problems wouldn't be as prominent... Never know...

Rotrcraftb2: The reason you're getting some negative feedback to your comments is because your son obviously has a lot of character...that is enigmatic to folks like gdshedszhft and arcadia986...

God bless you, your son, and your family!

Do you all really think she is still a virgin? I say no but that is just me. College at LSU all that drinking and no sex. I am not buying it no sir.

That is insulting. All 3 of my kids went through a public university and graduated, all as virgins. Its something that you make up your mind to wait for, til marriage. And they had made that commitment to God, so He helped them follow it through. Stop thinking stereotypes about college students.

The fact that you know that tells me they were breast feed the entire tme.

The fact that you said that, tells me that you probably have no moral standards yourself, therefore you would like to believe that nobody else does either.

You nailed it, Krisroney. Your kids sound like leaders rather than followers.

Name one virgin President.

Bro, if you are going to make a point, try to make sense.

42/44 Presidents were married before being elected; another was married in office. So, at most, 1 President was a virgin.

Of course, your question is an asinine non sequitur. Obviously, you were notathinkin. Better luck next time.

HA! Love it.

Great for your kids. But what were YOUR moral standards? Did YOU remain a virgin til marriage or even til after college. I hope so while your questioning someone elses moral standards!

on my screen, some of the words at the right side are covered by a grey block, but I think you were asking about myself. The answer is yes.

And that's the TRUTH! People with no standards hate on those who have them. Just like non-Christians are the FIRST to point out the *wrong* in a Christian's life, while they themselves aren't governed by ANYTHING!

When my parents got married (at 23 and 22), my dad was a virgin, my mom was not. I'm a 33 yr old woman, and I'm a virgin, and PROUD of it! The problem is, that those who are "against" virginity, don't really know the value of it.

Kudos to you, Kris!!!!!!

Totally agree with Krisroney. There are people out there with moral standards... but it always bothers folk who don't have any.

Seriously you are going to bring something that stupid into this......you are as ignorant as a hog.

I find it quite funny that a parent comments that it's insulting and uses their children as "proof" that virgins exist. Give me a break! I'm betting that none of them left high school with their virginity.

You know nothing.