12 things that will surprise you at European restaurants

In the US and most countries on either of the American continents, ketchup (and sometimes mustard) is the standard offering with fries. Not in Europe (or Quebec — fun fact!). Our friends across the Atlantic prefer mayonnaise, so you will need to specify if you want a different sauce. And be prepared for eye-rolling from the European waiters.

No matter what kind of warm caffeinated beverage you prefer, be prepared for the cup to be significantly smaller than its US equivalents. An American “small” is typically a European “large.” Tip: order an Americano or an American coffee if you want standard black coffee (not a tiny espresso), but be prepared for it to still pale in size.

North America has taken its anti-tobacco campaign very seriously my entire life. Many of us know more non-smokers than smokers. In Europe, however, it’s the opposite; many more people smoke. And while you can no longer do so indoors, many continue to do so on the outdoor terraces at cafes and restaurants. Accommodating smokers is a big reason for all the outdoor chairs in Europe.

Instead of taking your card away to swipe it at the cash register (and potentially steal info), the waiter almost always brings the hand-held machine to you. I’ve started seeing more restaurants in the US adopt the European approach, but it’s still not as common.

Even if there is no “wait to be seated” sign, always ask first (preceded with a polite greeting). It’s the polite thing to do, and you don’t want to be a rude tourist. In some places, like France, whose waiters are notoriously savage, you might even be chased away if you don’t use your manners.

Okay, the cups might be smaller on this side of the Atlantic, but you get a little bonus! Cookies or small chocolates are standard with your cup of coffee or tea. You’ll also usually be served sugar packets, should you want your drink sweetened as well.

It varies from country to country, but portions are generally consistently smaller than in the US. This can be a good thing, allowing you more room to sample amazing treats. However, I’ve been left hungry at times and had to duck into the bakery before closing to ensure I don’t go to bed hungry!

In outdoor bars and brasseries, you can sit (after politely asking) anywhere that doesn’t have a “reserved” sign. However, note that the better the seat (usually the best view) will often result in more expensive drinks.

If you were not previously aware, allow me to let you in on a secret about other countries: Many don’t have a tipping culture. European waiters across the continent receive a living wage; thus, there isn’t an expectation that the customer will supplement their paycheck. You only tip if the service is exceptional (and never at a coffee shop or to-go place.)

This translates to “dish of the day,” a pre-set mini-menu of a starter, main, and dessert (usually for lunch) for an affordable price. Standard in many Francophone countries, but you will find it elsewhere.

In the US, we’re frequently either blatantly or passive-aggressively pressured to pay and leave promptly after finishing our meal. In Europe, since waitstaff isn’t dependent on tips, they don’t care if you take up a table for the entire afternoon! I have sat for hours after a meal with barely a glance from the staff. Of course, if you’re somewhere popular that takes reservations, and it’s a busy night, this isn’t as relaxed, but in general, there isn’t the “rush” culture.

Remember the slightly-aggressive French waiters I mentioned? Well, less extreme versions of that attitude persist in many countries. While you won’t be chased out for committing a faux pas you may or may not have known existed, don’t expect the overly friendly and “do anything for the customer” attitude that is uniquely American. They’re not working for tips, so they’ll be polite but not overly accommodating.